The new year has come and gone and hopefully we have all made a few goals to become better people! I know this is a lot easier said than done and sometimes new year’s resolutions set us up for failure leaving us feeling hopeless and lost in reaching any of our goals. Well, ever since I can remember I have been setting and reaching my goals. I have learned a few things along the way and hope these tips can help you reach your goals as well!
- Be honest with yourself.
We are all capable of gauging where we are in different aspects of our life and there is no “one size fits all goals”. So really think about the type of person you want to become better at being and set small goals that will lead you on that path. It’s easy to set high expectations and goals for ourselves in the future, but it’s very important to research our ideas to get a better sense of what they entail first. One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to set unrealistic and unreachable goals. We think we need to drastically change something in order to see result or reach a certain point, when the truth is, goals are reached day by day, little by little.
- Research and think about your resolutions.
Goals don’t have to be a life changing event. They can be simple and something you know you can realistically achieve on a daily basis. I say, start small. Set a few goals for the month. Choose the ones that have the highest priority and start with those. If ultimately you want to loose 30 pounds, well we all know it starts with eating good and exercising. So start simple by saying “this week I am going to replace all fried food with grilled food.” “And I am going to find a workout plan that works for me.” These are both very simple things that will get you on the right path and make you feel like you have accomplished something. After the first week, continue to do your previous goals and add a couple more. For example: I am only going to eat out 2 times this week and I am going to work out 2x this week. Once you have accomplished these goals, move on to a couple more challenging ones and build upon what you have already done! Starting simple with realistic goals will help build your confidence and start habits that will lead you to your ultimate goals.
- Make yourself accountable.
WRITE your goals down!! Without a plan to achieve your goals, you will be lost and it will be hard to see your progress. Display your goals where you can see them daily. I like to set my weekly goals on my bathroom mirror so that is the first thing I see when I get up in the morning. I display my monthly goals right on my calendar in my office so I can track my progress and physically see where I’m at in reaching those goals. If you feel you need support, let your friends and family know what your goals are so they can help keep you accountable and on track! Help them understand how they can help you and exactly how you need them to support you.
4. Make your resolutions flexible and gradual.
Setting up our resolutions in small increments helps them to feel more manageable and much easier to accomplish. This is why I prefer the weekly and monthly goals. Try and be flexible in your goals as well. While we all like to make goals, and stick to them, maybe something just isn’t working for you or you aren’t seeing the results you were hoping for. If something clearly isn’t working, then take a day or two to figure it out and readjust. Or maybe something you thought you really wanted just doesn’t make sense anymore. Life happens. And our priorities change from month to month, day to day. This is another reason I like to stick to larger monthly goals and more specific weekly goals. This give us a chance every 30 days to reevaluate where we are and if we need to continue the same path or make adjustments. Don’t beat yourself up about not achieving a goal or two. As long as you are taking initiative and being active on becoming a better YOU, you are doing great
5. Come up with a reward system.
For me, just reaching my goals and knowing I am on track to becoming a better me is the best reward I can give myself. But some of us like a little more than that. If giving yourself small rewards helps motivate you and keep you on track then set up a rewards system! Each time you reach a small part of your goal or do your resolution consistently, reward yourself with something special. Doing so will keep you trudging forward! Good luck and I hope you find these tips useful in setting your new goals!